apologies have lost their punch with me.
at best, they only serve as the verbal acknowledgment that someone did something wrong. it's an admission of wrong doing, and i guess that's fine.
in my short life i've come to understand this: you must always forgive, but you don't necessarily have to forget.
forgiveness is for you and your relationship w/ god. god always forgives us, so we shouldn't hold people prisoner either. forgiveness frees you from having to deal with holding someone hostage forever. whether or not the person admits their wrong, let it go. never be a bill collector for a tab that someone else doesn't want to pay.
however, repentance is where a true heart change is seen. forgiveness is essential; forgetting only happens when a change occurs. it's the same thing with god. to progress in our relationship we can't just stop at forgiveness but we must actually REPENT. you must forgive, but if they don't change their ways, DON'T FORGET! don't be silly and drop your guard, lest you be run over again! give people a chance, sure...but after a while you'll see where people are. don't hate them...but don't forget.
at least...i don't forget. and in this particular situation where someone's given yet another apology...i'm reminded of the fact that i've seen no visible change. i accept the apology...i guess. but it's the same old song. i've heard "i'm sorry" about this at least eight separate times. the words just don't have an effect on me. i forgive you...i love you...and you don't have to prove anything to me...but i haven't forgotten. you haven't done anything to make me forget.
well...maybe you do have to prove it to me.
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